How to Write the Best Groom Speech with Examples

Standing up to deliver your groom speech might feel overwhelming, but after capturing hundreds of weddings as a professional videographer, I’ve seen exactly what makes a groom’s speech unforgettable.
Drawing from real wedding footage, I’ll show you how successful grooms have structured their speeches to bring both laughter and tears. From heartfelt stories to perfectly timed jokes, this guide breaks down the art of writing and delivering a groom’s speech, complete with real-world examples you can watch in action.
Whether you’re unsure how long your speech should be, wondering what to include, or feeling nervous about public speaking, I’ll walk you through everything you need to know to craft a speech your bride, family, and wedding guests will cherish forever.
How do I start my Groom speech?
The best way to start a groom speech is with a warm greeting to all guests, followed by a sincere thank you to everyone for attending your special day. Begin by addressing the audience as “Ladies and gentlemen, family and friends,” then thank your new in-laws for welcoming you into their family, acknowledge both sets of parents for their support, and most importantly, compliment your new spouse.
A strong opening sets the tone for your entire speech and should include a genuine expression of gratitude, a touch of humor if it fits your personality, and a brief introduction of who you are for guests who may not know you well. Avoid starting with overused jokes or apologies about being nervous, as these openings have become clichés at weddings.
Examples and tips for starting a groom speech:
- The Power of a Great Opening Line
- A well-timed joke instantly warms up the room
- Example: “They say public speaking is one of life’s greatest fears. But after seeing my wedding bill, this speech is now only my second biggest fear of the day.”
- Express Genuine Gratitude
- Thank guests, especially those who traveled far
- Example: “To everyone who crossed oceans and continents to be here – thank you. Your presence means the world to us.”
- Acknowledge Key People
- Start with your bride and both sets of parents
- Example: “To [Bride’s name], who looks stunning today, and to our incredible parents who made this day possible.”
- Share a Quick Story
- Choose something brief that sets up your speech’s theme
- Example: “When I first met [Bride’s name], I spilled my entire drink on her. Somehow, she still agreed to a second date – that’s when I knew she was the one.”
Pro Tip: Whatever opening you choose, practice it until it feels natural. The confidence you’ll gain from knowing your first few lines by heart will help calm those initial nerves and set you up for a memorable speech.
What should a groom say in his speech?
A groom speech should include seven key elements: a warm welcome to guests, heartfelt thanks to both sets of parents, special acknowledgment of your new in-laws, genuine appreciation for the wedding party, a loving tribute to your new spouse, acknowledgment of absent loved ones, and a toast to your shared future.
The most impactful groom speeches balance humor with sincerity, sharing 1-2 personal anecdotes that showcase your relationship’s journey. The most memorable portion should be dedicated to your bride -describing what you love about them, how she’s changed your life, and your hopes for your future together. Always end with a clear toast that invites everyone to raise their glasses.
What is the perfect structure for a groom speech?
The perfect groom speech structure starts with a warm welcome, thanks guests and key people, shares a personal story about your bride, and ends with a toast. As a wedding videographer, I’ve filmed countless speeches. This flow, simple yet heartfelt, always stands out.
Here’s the ideal structure that works every time. These steps keep it smooth and meaningful:
- Welcome Everyone: Open with a friendly greeting to acknowledge the crowd. This sets a warm tone and eases you into speaking.
- Thank Key People: Mention parents, in-laws, and the wedding party. Specific thanks show gratitude and connect with your audience.
- Share a Story: Tell a brief, personal tale about your bride. It adds heart and makes the speech uniquely yours.
- Raise a Toast: Close with a simple, heartfelt toast. This wraps it up on a high note and invites everyone to join in.
How long should my groom’s speech be?
Your groom speech should be 5-7 minutes long, or about 600-800 words, to keep guests engaged without dragging on. Aim for a concise, heartfelt delivery that covers thanks, a story, and a toast. Too short feels rushed; too long risks losing attention.
The sweet spot of 5-7 minutes lets you say everything meaningful without testing patience. That’s enough time to welcome everyone, thank key people, share a quick personal story, and raise a toast. Practice it aloud with a timer to hit that range. Guests appreciate brevity paired with heart, so keep it tight, but don’t skip the good stuff.
However, there are always exceptions, right?
My client, Trent, completely broke the rules with his 10-minute groom speech, and it totally worked. He nailed the perfect mix of eloquence and humor, making it one of the best groom speeches I’ve ever captured. Check out the video below to see why!
Best Groom Speech Ever
Trent had one of THE most amazing wedding speeches I’ve ever heard from a groom. From his brilliant opening line to his final toast to his wife, Louisa, this speech had it all. He started with a witty remark that broke the ice and set the tone for his speech.
He then shared some hilarious stories about how he met and fell in love with Louisa. Trent expressed his gratitude to both families for their support and love, especially his parents, who taught him how to be a good man. He also recalled some of the memorable moments of their relationship and how he was certain that Louisa was the one for him.
He ended his speech with a romantic toast to his wife, declaring his eternal devotion and happiness.
“They say to love someone deeply gives you strength but being loved by someone deeply gives you courage. Ladies and gentlemen, I’ve never felt as strong nor as courageous as I feel at this moment and that is thanks to only one person: my life, my wife Louisa.”
Venue: Kooroomba Vineyards & Lavender Farm
What is a Short Groom Speech Example?
Watch how Mitch delivered a short and sweet groom speech at his wedding reception in under two minutes. Even though Mitch was timid and admitted he was no expert at public speaking, he charmed the crowd and Zoe with his clever icebreaker, sincere thank yous, and tender expression of love for his bride.
“Zoe, from the moment I first glimpsed you striding furiously around the factory, the velocity of your ponytail back and forth motion serves as an unmistakable gauge of your determination and furiousness I thought to myself, this is the Sheila for me.”
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